So WHY?
WHY would I spend YEARS trying to bring this woman from three CENTURIES ago back to life? WHY did so many of my plans for her turn into crumbling headstone dust?
What did she want from me?
Was I really her incarnate? I don’t think so, literally, but I do believe that it’s possible, under the right circumstances, to tap into previous lifetimes of others.
I think that’s what this might have been.
But why now? Why am I finally finishing this as less than the book I meant to write, as never the live performance I so wanted to do? Why now in 2013?
…..because I am dying myself.
My arms have become as painfully thin as hers were the day she died and nearly took me with her. It is August, not March. I’m in Oregon, not New York. But all I keep thinking about is the River. How I long to just give up all the pain and misery of struggling with colon cancer and join with the River and eventually join with Everything and be free of this particular earthly life.
She DID everything she came to do. Have I? Well, I did THIS.
She left 13 grandchildren behind, outlived all of her children save Francis and buried Roger many, MANY years earlier. I am leaving one daughter, three grandchildren.
But she STARTED something and watched it flourish and died with the peace of knowing it would go on. She lived her life HER way, by HER values, and invested in what was most important to her.
Her story has so far been told as ‘Portrait of a Colonial Businesswoman’. I hope beyond hope that I was able to touch upon the WOMAN she was, on how deeply she loved those around her and the land she lived on.
Catharyna, I’m glad you got your wish to be buried beneath the pulpit of your church. I shall have half of my ashes scattered upon the Mighty Hudson River that played such a huge role in your life and called out to me to DISCOVER what I could about you. I hope I did you justice.
What I have yet to go through will somehow be easier because you allowed me to witness your death, that peaceful sleep, that sinking into the soft bed with you. It wasn’t yet MY time to go, but it will be soon. I only hope that when my time finally does come that I carry that same sense….. that I did all that I came here to do………
LadyB August 17, 2013
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August 19, 2013 at 4:15 pm
CheriClark HarryMacormack
Lady B- I just want you to know you touched my life by the things I learned from your web site and teasel for lyme. Plus your story about Catharyna. I am so sorry you have been handed this illness but I am amazed at your courage and humor with it all. You have had a good life from what I can see, especially having had a child and Grandkids- which I was not able to have. Onward to what awaits you! Hugs
August 20, 2013 at 1:15 pm
Swamp Pixie (@PixiesPocket)
Oh, Lady B…words fail me. You are astounding, and one of the closest things I have to a role model. You reminded me years ago to look within and trust the self when I had gone too clinical with my herbal path. You have consistently provided medicine, and plant lore, and education for me since we came across each other in the wisewoman forums.
I have respect, appreciation, and a love for you, although we’ve never met face to face, and I pray that your path forward be easy and peaceful, on this plane or others. ❤
I'm going to go raise a glass of Belgian beer to You, and to Catharyna! To the tradition of strong women who break the molds, and inspire the next generation of strong women. We'll keep holding up the lanterns as we climb.
August 20, 2013 at 5:33 pm
sharon
Oh Barbara, sadly I wish we had “met” sooner. Please know that the legacy you leave is rich in knowledge, wisdom and humor.
Thank you for these gifts. I hope that you are taking advantage of that magical herb that eases pain and suffering.
I wish I was as good a writer as you; this comment would be far more eloquent.
Godspeed.
September 2, 2013 at 10:45 am
Ariel Martian
LadyB~ thanks so much for sharing this life of Catharyna’s, and your own life with all of us. i never had the courage to write to you directly until i began reading this story, but admit i have been a long time follower of yours on the Wise Woman forum and your various other web endeavors. i so admire your ability to face everything in your path with equal measures of passion, curiosity, courage and above all, a great sense of humor. you are a great inspiration to me.
i wish you the best, and just know, that when your time comes, you’ll be shakin’ that pudding in the hereafter. much Love~
September 16, 2013 at 5:15 pm
Dana Tate
Gorgeous LadyB.
Thank you.
Thank you.
Thank you.